tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post110931428265843546..comments2024-02-20T08:24:41.908+00:00Comments on PEAS ON TOAST: crumbsPeas on Toasthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109481115665527312005-02-27T05:11:00.000+00:002005-02-27T05:11:00.000+00:00Awww, I'm sorry it didn't go as well as you were h...Awww, I'm sorry it didn't go as well as you were hoping. And I'm also sorry that I hate potato salad...Hang in there girl, but don't keep torturing yourself!Nettiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17538731676596907998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109355923873790372005-02-25T18:25:00.000+00:002005-02-25T18:25:00.000+00:00I'm crying now. Thanks guys. You and Christopher...I'm crying now. Thanks guys. You and Christopher are making me weep like a little girl. You two should totally hook up. Long distance relationship be damned! After...time, of course.Blog hohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09132918853554945024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109355239898272802005-02-25T18:13:00.000+00:002005-02-25T18:13:00.000+00:00You poor girl, it really is tough to love two guys...You poor girl, it really is tough to love two guys I know. You feel guilty and confused. Hang in there, I'm sure it will work itself out soon, in your mind and in your life.Robin Alexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03606232248535733243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109349278488862882005-02-25T16:34:00.000+00:002005-02-25T16:34:00.000+00:00Coldplay's new cd was supposed to be out sometime ...Coldplay's new cd was supposed to be out sometime april,but now it's been pushed back till the end of this year... sadly.<br /><br />The exam was a creative test, so didn't have to "study" per se. Still,tomorrows the group discussion and interview. So, fingers crossed.<br /><br />I know someone who went thru the exact same thing as you... and is still wondering whether the guy loves her or not. At least you're open about it... she pretends.<br /><br />Anyways, take care, and don't watch too many senti films!Papersluthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09887765716678301739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109337848100396242005-02-25T13:24:00.000+00:002005-02-25T13:24:00.000+00:00Jeez, that does sound like torture. I've always be...Jeez, that does sound like torture. I've always been an advocate of remaining in touch with exes but I've stopped doing it now - it's just too painful. I think you always wonder whether the old chemistry is still there - and the thought of them ever having that chemistry with anyone else is horrid. He sounds a tad insensitive for not realising that. Does he know about your fella?zuzulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11529129650106496253noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109336075380277192005-02-25T12:54:00.000+00:002005-02-25T12:54:00.000+00:00I like potato salad. Just had some last night!I like potato salad. Just had some last night!Edhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214319366049620074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109330971635941452005-02-25T11:29:00.000+00:002005-02-25T11:29:00.000+00:00Laurian,
I am so very sorry that you had a terrib...Laurian,<br /><br />I am so very sorry that you had a terrible night. Your post was heartbreaking. If I could give you a hug I would.<br /><br />Try not to beat yourself up about what happened. Nobody could have taken the news you got without feeling the way you did and it was very admirable and brave of you to <br />meet up with him in the first place. I have been where you are and it sucks royally. My ex frequently tried to talk to me about his dates before I moved out and it made me feel like a big stupid shit. Just remember that he isn't happy doing what he is doing and you seem far better off in your relationship. He may have shagged someone else, but he obviously isn't happy.<br /><br />Also, don't start doubting the relationship you had. I am sure that he cared for you a great deal while you were together and part of that is because you are a special and lovely person. That hasn't changed and you will find happiness elsewhere.<br /><br />If I were you, I would probably call off meeting up again until you think that you can face it. Otherwise it will just be like picking a wound and I know from recent experience that it isn't much fun. <br /><br />Take care of yourself!<br /><br />Stephanie<br />xxStephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17329124814064172699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109324068871266442005-02-25T09:34:00.000+00:002005-02-25T09:34:00.000+00:00My ex just text me and said "I understand how you ...My ex just text me and said "I understand how you feel but are we going to be friends or never see each other again?" I don't want to give her the satisfaction of being hurtful, sarcastic or wounded. I have chosen to say nothing. Whatever I say will only help her. If I'm a bastard she can think bad thoughts whilst hanging around with her new boyfriend and if I'm nice I'm Mr Doormat again.<br />The real kick in the guts is her sudden change of attitude. <br />"I could never replace you. I need time away from relationships etc etc" and at the slightest sniff of attention she's over me in a heartbeat. Clearly, she can forget four years in a blink.<br /><br />Laurian--I don't know about other men (I'm not really a man's man if you get me) but I have no intention of fucking anyone and, as you can tell, I'm more than happy to yap on about it. Screwing some random woman wouldn't help. I can't do things like that. I miss companionship and belonging more than sex.<br /><br />B--Thanks for your words. You're right. I have the closure I need. As my friend recently said "There is a fine line between noble and stupid". I can't be noble with her anymore. She's not my problem.<br /><br />Sorry, Laurian. I'm kind of taking over your comments section. If it helps, from your blog and the impression you give me, your ex is missing someone special.<br />I'll keep my chin up if you will xxxChristopher D. Batehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05223204198487038648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109320821188346802005-02-25T08:40:00.000+00:002005-02-25T08:40:00.000+00:00Hi Chris
It breaks my heart, your story. I'm glad...Hi Chris<br /><br />It breaks my heart, your story. I'm glad I heard it. Because that's what I felt like last night. Now that his stupid six-week shagathon is over, we are friends again. Friends shmends. It was torture.And my hangover is just making me feel worse. I'm so proud that you didn't cry and had the sensibility and maturity to realise what your situation was at face-value. Something that I obviously don't have the maturity to do right now. Accept that he never did love me, never will and that I'm just his little comfort thing when he's down. Wait, but I KNOW he liked me lots and I did make a serious impression of him. Why did he call me after I left his car? Wait, I;m doing it again. See?<br />Maybe I should see this as closure. But for some reason this hurts more than our actual break up. I'm glad to see that men actually feel something too. I've become quite a man-cynic of late, so thanks for your post.<br /><br />My friend Jo said that when a girl's heart is broken, she talks to her friends. When a man's heart is broken, he fucks someone else. How true is this?Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109319068371224182005-02-25T08:11:00.000+00:002005-02-25T08:11:00.000+00:00Laurian,
I hope you are feeling better.
I had so...Laurian,<br /><br />I hope you are feeling better.<br /><br />I had some rather disturbing news lasy night. I was on the phone to my ex. I was once again bending ober backwards to be nice (In the spirit of Karma) and she wanted to come down for the weekend and spend sometime with me. I thought that would be nice to see how we could be with my new calmer attitude. Midway through the chat she blurted out that she was seeing someone in her office. <br />She couldn't understand my shock and that's what got to me. It was then that I realised I was her fall back boy....again. She has someone but she wants to do all the same things we used to do when we were 'friends with potiential'.<br />It was then that I realised how truly selfish she is. She's moved on but she won't allow me the same option. She knows full well that I couldn't if it was still 'on the table'.<br />It was actually the closure I needed. I didn't cry. I was shocked but not upset. <br />With our history and her CV of short-changing me emotionally she has found someone first and I'm the sucker who gets it in the nec and becomes nothing more than her personal safety net.<br /> This may sound like the ramblings of a stupid man but I thought I'd share the male side of things.Christopher D. Batehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05223204198487038648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109318187512425362005-02-25T07:56:00.000+00:002005-02-25T07:56:00.000+00:00Honestly, everything would have been fine if he ha...Honestly, everything would have been fine if he hadn't shared the fact that he'd been shagging some other bird. <br /><br />Masochist? Pah! Torture Queen more like it.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1109316269996419772005-02-25T07:24:00.000+00:002005-02-25T07:24:00.000+00:00poodle, you've just got to realise this meeting up...poodle, you've just got to realise this meeting up with ex-flames and desirables is not the right path for you. you know you want more than you're actually capable of accepting (thanks to the permanent man in your life), which just compounds the torture for you. accept that this is the last time you can do this if you're not willing to commit to what he (whoever that he may be) offers you. you're not fucked up, but you're a hell of a masochist.Third World Anthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966937101895046400noreply@blogger.com