tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post114603357489823069..comments2024-02-20T08:24:41.908+00:00Comments on PEAS ON TOAST: ouchPeas on Toasthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146571612689223052006-05-02T13:06:00.000+01:002006-05-02T13:06:00.000+01:00Daedalus - Ex S and Small Bum both know of my blog...Daedalus - Ex S and Small Bum both know of my blog. Small Bum however doesn't read it. Ex S does on occasion. I've told him not to, as it may hurt him. I've also told them that this is my catharsis, so I write to vent. They've been warned. But because they are both the subject matter for my venting on most occasions, the stuff that is written here is also now new to them.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146567214818944402006-05-02T11:53:00.000+01:002006-05-02T11:53:00.000+01:00Are any of the +guys+ in question aware of your bl...Are any of the +guys+ in question aware of your blog? I.e. do you think they read here, or is this your safe retreat from that world?Daedalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02201811190392230364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146565323395869182006-05-02T11:22:00.000+01:002006-05-02T11:22:00.000+01:00Daedalus - you've hit the nail on the head. I am o...Daedalus - you've hit the nail on the head. I am on an emotional rollercoaster.<BR/>Welcome to my world. It's not as fun as the brochure promises.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146562638905049052006-05-02T10:37:00.000+01:002006-05-02T10:37:00.000+01:00Geeze Peas!I do not want to sound like a father-fi...Geeze Peas!<BR/><BR/>I do not want to sound like a father-figure here but, I think you should give yourself some time-off hun. Ex’es and rebounds? You are on an emotional roller coaster. Sounds like your heart is still with the Ex, tho the rest of you are somewhere else.<BR/><BR/>I cannot say that time will heal such wounds. I <I>still</I> get the *heebies* when I think of my matric girl sleeping with another and that includes many-a-year gone by. Sometimes there are wounds that you don’t want to heal… it is a common dichotomization.Daedalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02201811190392230364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146551931457086012006-05-02T07:38:00.000+01:002006-05-02T07:38:00.000+01:00Thanks guys for all your comments and stories. And...Thanks guys for all your comments and stories. And duke for the link: imagine a book! Halarious. :)Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146234308725369842006-04-28T15:25:00.000+01:002006-04-28T15:25:00.000+01:00you know it's weird. I just found out today that t...you know it's weird. <BR/><BR/>I just found out today that the guy i was engaged to is married with a baby on the way.<BR/><BR/>do you know what i felt? Nothing. I'm actually kind of happy for the guy. Feel slightly sorry for her tho, having to deal with his mother. Apparently he married his brother's wife's twin sister?! A little to close for my liking<BR/><BR/>But my point is, and there is one, it will get easier. if i'd find out 6 months ago, i would have been devestated. but i'm in a place in my life now where i can be happy for him because i've let go and moved on.<BR/><BR/>Hard as it may be, you need to let go. Concentrate on what you have with SB and make it work. You seem to be happy with him. Dwelling on that past won't make things easier.<BR/><BR/>Be strong girl, you know you can do it!serendipityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03277487156899356659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146178838417584452006-04-28T00:00:00.000+01:002006-04-28T00:00:00.000+01:00unrelated topic: found this story of a blogger who...unrelated topic: found this story of a blogger who took her blog material and rearranged it into a bestselling book. Peas, you should consider it. <BR/><BR/>http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff/0,2106,3510658a4501,00.html<BR/><BR/>Please note: I'm not saying Peas is in any way like a hooker. I'm just saying that entertaining blogs can lead to other media stuff and you should check it out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146146078078630032006-04-27T14:54:00.001+01:002006-04-27T14:54:00.001+01:00Oh Peas *hugs* I know. I really know. At the same ...Oh Peas *hugs* I know. I really know. At the same time you're thinking...How could anyone possibly know? <BR/><BR/>Those questions are the second worst (The ones you shouldn't ask, but can't help asking). What is even worse than the questions is when they actually answer...oh how I know.<BR/><BR/>I also fall in love way too quickly, without thinking and end up bruised with my tail between my legs, there's nothing I can do to stop it. <BR/><BR/>With SB...I really hope it works out. I do. <BR/><BR/>If it doesn't...here's a very big net to catch you (pun intended)<BR/><BR/>*hugs again*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146146053753992462006-04-27T14:54:00.000+01:002006-04-27T14:54:00.000+01:00Oh Peas *hugs* I know. I really know. At the same ...Oh Peas *hugs* I know. I really know. At the same time you're thinking...How could anyone possibly know? <BR/><BR/>Those questions are the second worst (The ones you shouldn't ask, but can't help asking). What is even worse than the questions is when they actually answer...oh how I know.<BR/><BR/>I also fall in love way too quickly, without thinking and end up bruised with my tail between my legs, there's nothing I can do to stop it. <BR/><BR/>With SB...I really hope it works out. I do. <BR/><BR/>If it doesn't...here's a very big net to catch you (pun intended)<BR/><BR/>*hugs again*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146145624174542172006-04-27T14:47:00.000+01:002006-04-27T14:47:00.000+01:00Peas i got an email once from the ex, saying he wa...Peas i got an email once from the ex, saying he was sorry, didnt realise how much pain he had caused me until he experienced it for himself.<BR/><BR/>I too got a sharp pain in my chest after further reading the email which then said: "I have a question, <BR/>do you regret trying to make it work after you'd realised that I didn't feel the way I had before? Do you think it was worthwhile taking the chance, or do you wish you'd just given it up as soon as it started going bad?"<BR/><BR/>So basically, he was asking me advice in a roundabout way whether he should pursue this chick or not.<BR/><BR/>Let me tell you, it hurt like hell.<BR/><BR/>I responded and said "thanks for the apology, however I feel it inappropriate that you asking me for advice, me thinks u're barking up the wrong tree.<BR/><BR/>And isnt it nice to know that every dog gets its day, now go bark up someone else's tree."<BR/><BR/><BR/>Hope you feel better Peas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146060319178931272006-04-26T15:05:00.000+01:002006-04-26T15:05:00.000+01:00Have to agree with Fly, us guys aren't exactly for...Have to agree with <B>Fly</B>, us guys aren't exactly forthcoming with the 'l' word. It's like that dude in the Harry potter books (i know you have read them.. pls) "He who must not be named". That word.. the one starting wiht L is something we are always scared by. SB probably fell madly in "that word we cannot say" the moment he met you..GoDsGiMphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14926172526714567695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146052689114014462006-04-26T12:58:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:58:00.000+01:00and how do you know that he doesnt love you alread...and how do you know that he doesnt love you already ??? im not sticking up for the guy....but im hardly forthcoming with these kinds of things, as are most guys....flyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08795187396428641233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146052415125100022006-04-26T12:53:00.001+01:002006-04-26T12:53:00.001+01:00Then hang on to him Peas...and just give it a litt...Then hang on to him Peas...and just give it a little more time. Is it really an issue that he doesn't love you RIGHT now? Are you happy together?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146052399783204362006-04-26T12:53:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:53:00.000+01:00So sorry to hear you had a rough one. Want me to b...So sorry to hear you had a rough one. Want me to beat anyone?Billyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16749758511807261059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146052049254096322006-04-26T12:47:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:47:00.000+01:00Jam - I know it's amazing that I've managed to giv...Jam - I know it's amazing that I've managed to give myself to someone else so soon. But that's what makes SB so special. I never thought I'd be in something again so soon, but he's managed to keep my interest regardless of what I'm going through with Ex S.<BR/><BR/>TWA - Love you guy. SB is nothing if sincere. xxPeas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146051796746005112006-04-26T12:43:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:43:00.000+01:00I totally agree with your last point, Peas. Someti...I totally agree with your last point, Peas. Sometimes, things happen at the wrong time (and therefore just were never meant to be, for reasons we cannot fathom).<BR/><BR/>But I'd also like to agree with fly's point about 'unsuspecting relationships'... those are the kind where people don't try too hard to keep their partners keen at the beginning, only to let you down by seemingly losing interest and not making the same effort in the future. A guys who's honest at the start (by which I mean doesn't go out of his way to impress you with insincere over-the-top gestures of love), will be consistent in the way he treats you to the end. You'll always know where you stand...Third World Anthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06966937101895046400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146051779354642472006-04-26T12:42:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:42:00.000+01:00Peas - Just reading back and thinking about Phakt ...Peas - Just reading back and thinking about Phakt asking if you're giving Small Bum a real chance...I mean, you're still mourning your Ex S or at the very least, you're mourning the loss of that kind of relationship.<BR/>Reason why I am asking is because I am finding it hard to be with anyone new because I am still saying goodbye to the old. It's hard for me to find the emotional space to engage completely with someone else...because I'm preoccupied.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146051555731859202006-04-26T12:39:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:39:00.000+01:00and times running out it would seem ;o)and times running out it would seem ;o)flyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08795187396428641233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146050687549059662006-04-26T12:24:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:24:00.000+01:00It makes me wonder Fly - SB may regret never sayin...It makes me wonder Fly - SB may regret never saying he loved me too. I think dumping/being dumped totally works both ways. And I'm sorry to hear about C. I am a firm believer in wrong time, wrong place, perhaps that was you and C?<BR/><BR/>I just sincerely hope that SB can pull himself together. He's never been in love before, or so he says, so its looking doubtful at this point.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146050301201899722006-04-26T12:18:00.000+01:002006-04-26T12:18:00.000+01:00yeah I hear you there....(and we will call here "C...yeah I hear you there....(and we will call here "C")....I gave C a real hard time when we split...even when she moved to the UK I was on her case....we made friends, she came back and broke my heart again...you cant be friends with some peeps...you'll always want more and matter what happens, nothing will change it...you will always want and want to be wanted by that person...<BR/><BR/>I would never go back to her....but that doesnt change the way I feel eitehr ;o)<BR/><BR/>Ive found that normally its the unsuspecting relationships that become the strong ones....the ones that you dont go nuts over...the ones where you think that theres actually nothing there, yet take that person away and your world crumbles...SB may be this person without you realising...to throw that away on a whim is a tuffy...you will never forgive yourself if you realise too late what it couldve been...<BR/><BR/>I dumped C and ive regretted it ever since...look, it may have been inevitable but.....I will never really know and thats the killer....flyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08795187396428641233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146049133125487922006-04-26T11:58:00.000+01:002006-04-26T11:58:00.000+01:00Fly - I've pondered about this date thing quite a ...Fly - I've pondered about this date thing quite a whack. If I don't set an ultimatum, then I may find myself waiting forever. I've come to the conclusion that him loving me is pretty important, as it takes up alot of my thought processes and I get bleak that it's just me at this point. He doesn't know about the date, but he does know I won't wait around forever. Third Roommate, a guy friend of ours that is practically part of the furniture at out flat reckons I should set a time and tell him about it, then at least he has a heads up and has a chance to think about things.<BR/>I don't know. I certainly don't have the answers. I'm just trying to find the best way to handle this I guess.<BR/><BR/>I will like him a whole bunch then. I like him a whole bunch now. It will be hard. But then maybe there'll be room for someone to love me as much as I love them if I let SB go. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps Ex S and I will be able to talk again in say...like 5 years. In the meantime, I think 'outta sight outta mind' applies. It just hurts too much.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146048398246932082006-04-26T11:46:00.000+01:002006-04-26T11:46:00.000+01:00hmmmmm....I wouldnt set a date, that just puts pre...hmmmmm....I wouldnt set a date, that just puts pressure on the relationship and sets your expectations higher...and what happens if you get to that date and YOU REALLY LIKE HIM A WHOLE BUNCH... ??? will you just pack up and go... ???<BR/><BR/>btw, why is there a date ??? ....ive only been around these parts for a few weeks so I may be totally off base here....<BR/><BR/>Regarding Ex S...I still speak to my ex of 4 years ago...I still adore her to pieces and she slept with my best friend 3 months ago ?! which wouldve been fine if it wasnt just a one night stand (which it was) ...strangely I still adore her ?! but I do know that she is not the right person for me now...I had to go thru all the heartache to realise tho...ce la vie...flyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08795187396428641233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146047221385872202006-04-26T11:27:00.000+01:002006-04-26T11:27:00.000+01:00Fly - From this January. July we would've been tog...Fly - From this January. July we would've been together 6 months. I think that's enough time for someone to know someone else failry well and realise whether they're in love or judt biding time.<BR/><BR/>I think being single may even be easier right now Fly. No expectations and stuff.<BR/>Bt too late for that, upward and on.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146046841945498682006-04-26T11:20:00.000+01:002006-04-26T11:20:00.000+01:00This January or next ??? :oDYou'll be fine peas......This January or next ??? :oD<BR/><BR/>You'll be fine peas.....it only hurts for a little while and for now you have SB to occupy yourself with...count yourself lucky that you havent slipped into single dispair.... :o)flyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08795187396428641233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-1146044122083714162006-04-26T10:35:00.000+01:002006-04-26T10:35:00.000+01:00Peanut - thank you my dear. After all the emotiona...Peanut - thank you my dear. After all the emotional dramas I have posted herein, I am surprised you think I still have it together, nevertheless, there is hope for me, huh? ;) I guess I just have to keep my feet on the ground when it comes to SB. I'm just such a pathetic and hopeless romantic who falls in love way too easily. <BR/><BR/>Q - Yay for Iggy Pop! :)<BR/><BR/>phakt - He wouldn't. We're way too far down the road for that. And I don't think I would ever get past the whole 'in love and shagging a common acquiantance' thing.<BR/>As for SB, I really want things to work out for us. I just get bleak when I realise I am in love with him, but have no idea if he will ever feel the same way about me. Either way, he deserves a fair amount of time. I'm giving him six months from January.Peas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.com