tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post8414587769058071106..comments2024-02-20T08:24:41.908+00:00Comments on PEAS ON TOAST: a guide: what to say Peas on Toasthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-69741620572732055892014-10-08T13:23:37.705+01:002014-10-08T13:23:37.705+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-71917389412326511222014-10-08T12:29:25.408+01:002014-10-08T12:29:25.408+01:00Michelle - And huge hugs back to you. It pains me ...Michelle - And huge hugs back to you. It pains me to think you've gone through the same thing in terms of people not acknowledging your loss. And yes, you definitely find that your true friends will stick around and others not so much. xx<br /><br />Vannessa - thanks so much for sharing these links! I am going through the posts on your blog as we speak. I'd be honoured if you posted again and mention me and the blog, links or no links! Your advice and comments have been invaluable to me over the past few months. xxx<br /><br />Church - it's SO true you mention the UK thing, I almost put something up about it here. People here don't know how to talk about their losses and 'feelings,' - at least not like how South Africans do! And it's very frustrating at times. xx<br /><br />Coffee - Hi dad, no, as that was spelled Mollie! It's just a coincidence really. x<br /><br />Satin - thanks mum, I really appreciate that xxPeas on Toasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03349482085062035903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-9717640021102258882014-10-08T07:26:14.486+01:002014-10-08T07:26:14.486+01:00That is beautifully written my girl. I certainly ...That is beautifully written my girl. I certainly include Molly in my conversations with others when they ask after you all.<br />Satin Slipovershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04856810555753975864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-28563992035349401342014-10-07T21:09:07.762+01:002014-10-07T21:09:07.762+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Coffee and Books Cape Townhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01260170267685879941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-10320234443022814622014-10-07T21:09:06.828+01:002014-10-07T21:09:06.828+01:00Well written Boo. There is something I wanted to a...Well written Boo. There is something I wanted to ask. Did you choose Molly's name from your old house at school? Big hugs Dad xxCoffee and Books Cape Townhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01260170267685879941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-24533531940533876622014-10-07T20:51:11.364+01:002014-10-07T20:51:11.364+01:00My experience of loss is completely different - al...My experience of loss is completely different - although we had three early miscarriages, which is utterly different - but can totally relate.<br /><br />My wife died aged 37 after 6 months in Addenbrookes. The whole experience was fucking awful but the real eye opener was post death and it became clear that we, certainly in the UK, no longer have a clue as to how to deal with death and the bereaved. <br /><br />Death is now brushed under the carpet and is more taboo than paedophilia - in the early days I saw people in my home town crossing the street rather than bump in to me, such is the anaethema.<br /><br />Add our national emotional reticence into the mix and you're in a minefield of stiff upper lipdom - 12 years on and I still dread the question about my marital status; it always results in a wish from the questioner for the ground to swallow them.<br /><br />Only in this do I wish I was French or, better, Italian or, even better, Spanish but best of all Corsican.<br /><br />Sadly you're in the wrong place, at the worst of times, for the right response.<br /><br />God Bless Molly and may her soul rest in eternal peace - and if my belief is proved wrong may her essence and memory live forever in your family.churchaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13664676339711692603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-58882246810974727422014-10-07T12:17:32.801+01:002014-10-07T12:17:32.801+01:00Had to add a link to this post too - http://www.ke...Had to add a link to this post too - http://www.kendrameiring.blogspot.com/2007/06/update.html<br /><br />Going down memory lane....Vannessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10015257402929693499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-4247401138456439872014-10-07T11:55:39.614+01:002014-10-07T11:55:39.614+01:00Gosh, Peas, you took me back a few years now. I w...Gosh, Peas, you took me back a few years now. I wrote on my blog a long time ago that sometimes the sadness runs down my face and catches me by surprise. It did now reading this and last night while I was watching Resurrection on TV (tip: don't watch it, too soon).<br /><br />I had to go back to my blog and find this post - http://www.kendrameiring.blogspot.com/2007/11/handling-grief.html. So many of the same sentiments. Reading your blog and also reading my friend's FB page(whose twin daughter died last year at 17) has me wanting to post something on my blog again. Just about all the feelings that are being stirred up in me again. I hope you don't mind if I mention you (no names or links). We don't know each other IRL but I think about you and Molly and Sebastion a lot.Vannessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10015257402929693499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10009339.post-84007195379344214252014-10-07T07:29:27.783+01:002014-10-07T07:29:27.783+01:00PEAS ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) some people have ...PEAS ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) some people have no clue how to deal with other people's emotions and losses - i remember my "best friend" calling round the weekend after my first miscarriage at Easter and not mentioning it all morning, just wittering on about lovely walks she was going to have with her 2 year old (who i always doted on) when i later asked why she never mentioned anything after 2 losses she said "people dont know what to say" and left it at that. Funnily enough she was also really annoyed when i became pregnant finally - i think you find out who your true friends are at times like these - xxxxxxxx be strong xxx Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com