Friday, December 09, 2005

divorce proceedings

After 5 weeks of cooperation, meetings, generally getting along, my ex boyfriend has struck again.
He has mood swings that go from deliriously nice to deliriously fucking difficult.

In a nutshell, he's a selfish cunt. Sorry I have no other words of appropriate explanation.
I go to Mozambique in a week. He pulled out of this yesterday saying he's made his own plans, leaving mine and his friends in the lurch. We're still going to go, but it's going to be rather difficult.
Then to top it off, he's threatening to break into my flat and take the rest of his stuff he said Third World Ant and I could use until the end of the month. This includes our two beds. He is living at home, so what the fuck is he going to do with two beds?

I said I'd make a time for him to collect his stuff when my parents are there, because I'm scared he'll trash my flat again. He says that he's going to file a theft charge in the meantime.
Am I in some sort of nightmare??

All I can do now is let him take his stuff, but somehow reason with him about the beds. How did I get myself in this situation? How did I put up with this for 5 years? This pattern of behaviour is so typical of him, and before I used to reason and beg him to stop being so irrational. Now I've run out of energy and patience and refuse to make excuses for his behaviour. Yet, I still feel responsible. Somehow.

I wonder what today will unfold. Either way, and judging from the last month, something will happen, and it won't be pleasant.


Better Safe Than Sorry said...

if it means you're going to have to sleep on the floor, do it, get him out of your life, now. let him pick up whatever is his, he'll have no more excuses to harrass or threaten you. he's playing a game right now, end it.

Peas on Toast said...

I know. I've actually told him to come through this weekend, as long as he doesn't fly off the wall. Then it's gone and out of my life forever.

Billy said...

You ok?

Peas on Toast said...

Hey Billy
Yeah thanks I'm ok. I'm hoping this will all blow over. Already he's been on the phone to everyone saying that he's doing this cos he can't move on and is still in so much pain. If that's the truth, then I almost feel sorry for him in a way.

In the meantime, tranquilisers are my friends! (Even if they're just my friends for today) ;)

simon said...

Hey, Peas, where you heading to in Moz? Also heading out there (Ponto do Oura) next week via Durban. Touch base with me if you're heading to the same place?

Stephanie said...

What a tosspot! I've been there and its not worth clinging on to material things. If it gets him out of your hair then let him take what he wants. I resented the fact that I was inconveniencing myself because someone else couldn't be bothered to act like a mature adult. In the end, I gave in for a bit of peace and it was worth it.

November Rain said...

do you have neighbors you can trust?

if so I would do as better aid and then ask them to watch you apt
and call the police if he comes around as once he has his junk he doesnt need to come back

Paperslut said...

I have always (ok... sometimes) found that the best way to deal with a difficult situation is to avoid it.

Go out of town for a while. Drink some cheap liquor. It'll sort itself out.

Even if it doesn't, at least you had a good time.

I have a feeling this is not the first time I'm saying this...

Peas on Toast said...

Simon - Ponto sounds awesome, I'll be in Barra though, near Inhambane. I'm telling you, Mozam is thee place to be this season.

Steph - I know, I said to him he can take his stuff, it's really not worth the fight.

Novy - I have told my neighbours about my predicament, and they'll keep an eye out for me.

Wonderwall - Don't worry, it's not the first time I'm taking your advice. It works. :)