Wednesday, July 18, 2007

as it all stands

The blasé version.

This new guy on the scene - the aeroplane dude - really shouldn't like me, only because we're an unlikely match. Because of complications that come with this.

This is accidental. And by no means am I jumping into any relationship with two feet, trust me. If there were two people no one would ever imagine getting along, it's me and this guy. But we do.

There are many complexities, and nothing is certain here, at least from my standpoint. One thing is for sure: this will be a talking point for many of the people we know. But, luckily I don't give a Royal Ascot what people say about me, so this doesn't bother me in the slightest.

The one thing that has happened and I am deeply sorry for, is hurting another person because of this. Someone, whom over the last few months, I have grown to care for deeply, and is my friend. He can't understand how my mind works regarding this.

If it's any consolation, I don't know how my mind works either.

He's opted not to talk to me for while. Which is probably the best thing for him – I believe that a No Contact Policy while things are rough is a good idea, and I will respect this. It's always worked for me. It means you can be friends later on.

I'm being taken out for dinner later. Here's hoping it's not a MacDonald's Happy Meal. Because that would be a tragedy.

63 comments:

Syllable said...

I have to commend you on your timing. It pleases me to no end that you post at about the same time my productivity crashes. Every morning when I get up I count the days to normality. From next month your blog will be the first thing I read in the morning over my coffee...

Peas on Toast said...

Syllable - bless, and thank you! :)

Heddles said...

Peas, once I was whisked away to a McDonald's Playpen on a date :)

Peas on Toast said...

Heddles - shut up seriously? Did he at least say, "It's cool, you can keep the toy?"

Heddles said...

He did, but I said "My love don't cost a thing".

Peas on Toast said...

Ah. You're sweet. :)

thing said...

ooh exciting :)

Betenoir said...

hmmm. very mysterious and secretive-sounding, yet romantic. oh, please don't turn into one of those gushy mushy "I'm so in love and I'm going to share every detail, because the birds are singing, the flowers are pretty" types. Please?

Peas on Toast said...

thing :)

Bete - don't you worry, I really won't. Whatever happens, good or bad, I'm going to remain tight-lipped.

Lost in Here! said...

Peas, just have funn!

Peas on Toast said...

Lost In Here - fun is what I do best, thankfully. :)

Lost in Here! said...

Thats gooooood!

Revolving Credit said...

"..we're an unlikely match"

Why?
Don't midget Mongolian albino hunchbacks deserve love too?
If you cut them, do they not bleed?
If you tickle them, do they not laugh?
If you kick them, do them not roll like a soccer ball?

Peas on Toast said...

Rev - ha ha, no, not in that way.
Just circumstance alone.

He's not a Mongolian midget, I swear.
;)

ekke said...

Just figure out where your dad would take someone, you know you're gonna go there...

I KID, I KID!!!

Peas on Toast said...

Ha ha Ekke, you're a funny lady. :)

Revolving Credit said...

Nooo, you misinterpret, I was refering to you as a Mongolian midget...haha

But seriously, you said :
"This new guy on the scene.... really shouldn't like me"


Interesting turn of phrase.
Why, are you chopped liver??

Get on the couch and lets explore this further.

Peas on Toast said...

Rev - ha ha, yes I'm the Mongolian midget. :)

No I didn't write that because I feel insecure, just because of the noise around this.

I'm definitely not chopped liver. And as far as I see this - whether it happens or not - I'm me, I do stupid shit, and I'm Peas - he either likes me for that or he doesn't. So if he does like me for who I am - flaws and all - that's great. If not, well, life goes on I guess!

hot pink flush said...

Peas, difficult it may be, but can i start a slow clap to say, well, that's nice... and it's about time you have something nice happen?
X

Peas on Toast said...

Hot Pink - thanks babe. I do agree that something nice has to happen to me.

But let's not get ahead of ourselves. I already feel a bit sheepish putting this up today...

Revolving Credit said...

Ja, a bit awkward when you crush someone elses infatuation in the process....but, hehy, get over it.

Anonymous said...

Again dont think too much and enjoy the evening wherever it takes u. The positive thing is that you've been asked out to dinner!

Peas on Toast said...

Thanks Anon, I will do. I'm feeling relatively chilled, and whatever happens happens.

Anonymous said...

Then it'll be all good :)

Revolving Credit said...

Why the big divide that your friends appear to be diving into?

Him not good enough?
You not good enough?
Bad history on his side?

Peas on Toast said...

He is good enough. I think. Time will tell.
I am DEFINITELY good enough. :)

Bad history, not necessarily. It's just more...that we know a lot of the same people, and therein the complications arise. It's the people.

Revolving Credit said...

You've dated within for friend circle before, so why's this an issue this time?

Has he dated someone else within the circle before?

Peas on Toast said...

Rev - this is when you are too astute and clever, and I have an obligation to back down my friend.
Sorry :(

Revolving Credit said...

That does explain others getting defensive and/or protective

I don't know the circumstances, but a note of caution or shared information, based on the inner workings of the male mind:

Evaluate your friendships carefully. Relationships may come and go but true friends are hard to find. A time-out may not suffice, you may well be changing the nature of the relationship with a friend forever (in english) This may actually terminate a friendship.

Evaluate the risks and benefits then make your choice. An informed choice, so that whatever the outcome, you do not regret it as you made your choices fully informed and with your eyes wide open.

Revolving Credit said...

No longer prodding, just advocating caution!

Revolving Credit said...

PS. I have the feeling that guy friend is treating you like one of the guys. Different rules apply now.

Peas on Toast said...

Rev - interesting, but although I've been told be cautious (and am fully believing it), the guy friend not wanting contact isn't because of him being a guy friend.

It's just...I need to be careful, and luckily because I have so many walls up these days, I think I'll be ok :)

Revolving Credit said...

Ok, nuff said.

Revolving Credit said...

So what you gonna wear tonight?

Peas on Toast said...

Ha ha :)

Don't know, haven't thought that far in advance. I'm chilled remember?
;)

Revolving Credit said...

Chilled?
Go put on some underwear before you catch a cold.

Peas on Toast said...

Good idea ;)

Chester Pillow said...

Peas, a date! Good, good!
Does he know about us? ;')

Peas on Toast said...

Ches - hahaha! When do you think I should tell him about us? Over dinner or should I wait for a better time?

I hope he doesn't mind about my special boy Ches. :)

Anonymous said...

Well it sounds like you like the new plane guy. So why the commnent about the unlikely match

Peas on Toast said...

Anon - because usually I'd avoid this guy like the plague, mainly for the other complicated reasons I made note of above.

Chester Pillow said...

Don't think he'll mind but maybe wait a while! That kind of news may be tough to swallow over dinner! Kinda like a dry pizza! ;'0

Peas on Toast said...

Ha ha, don't worry Ches, you're still my special special boytjie!
:)

Revolving Credit said...

Peas, you make Chester sound like a retard , like he goes to Special School.

Was that intentional??

Chester, I apologise on behalf of Peas, she's had a lot on her mind today.

Peas on Toast said...

HAHAHAH, sorry just spluttered coffee all over my screen....nice. :)

Sorry Ches, but Rev is looking into this far too deeply!

You're still my special wecial liddle boychie though :)

Nessers said...

Sometimes the most unlikely and unsought for matches are the most rewarding - if you are both interested in making it work you will work it out - good luck

Peas on Toast said...

Thanks Nessers :)

Chester Pillow said...

Thanks Pea's.

Revolving Credit said...

Why'd it suddenly go so quiet in here?

Pre-date nerves???

ekke said...

AHEM.

I have dangly bits, honey. I am a boy child.

Closest I ever got to being a lady was in Saigon the day of The Great Horizontal Refreshment Riots.

I's not something I like to talk about. :(

Peas on Toast said...

Rev - nope, actually doing some work :)

Ekke - My sincerest apologies! OK, so you have a nomthondo, that is good to hear!

ekke said...

I try not to brag. ;)

Peas on Toast said...

Hey, if you've got it, you might as well flaunt it! :)

ekke said...

Except when it's really cold. Then it just looks like a button on a fur coat...

Revolving Credit said...

A button?
You have 4 holes in your penis??

Doesn't that leak?

ekke said...

Not if you don't wash.

ekke said...

Apparently, like heddles, my love don't cost a thing either...

Revolving Credit said...

Well, best you're not counting on it to earn you money, because if you don't wash it nobody's going to want to come close to it.

ekke said...

So much for a career in street theatre...
(http://the-granny-wrangler.blogspot.com/2007/07/teacher-teacher.html)

Peas on Toast said...

Have you guys finished discussing your nethers yet? ;)

ekke said...

yes 'm.

Revolving Credit said...

Why Peas, were you hoping for show-and-tell?

Revolving Credit said...

Mmmm...no morning post.

Seems like someone had a napover last night.