Tuesday, July 19, 2005

I've lost a friend

I was, until a week ago, very good friends with my ex's friend. We used to do lots together. My ex said that the only reason that he was friends with me was because he wanted to "bone me." Charming. I always used to tell my ex to get stuffed, because that couldn't be the case.

I know that this guy liked me more than platonically, but he always knew where we stood. He met a girl, that I vaguelly know - she's a little wierd - and now he's got a girlfriend. I haven'y heard from him in weeks.

My ex was right. Now that he doesn't need to try and ..."bone me" he doesn't feel the need to be my friend. I am so hurt! I have e-mailed him a saying that we should ll go out sometime, etc. The usual stuff. He did go out this weekend with a whole lot of people, and I just didn't crack the nod.

Men. It's all or nothing, isn't it. We used to get on so well. But I', guessing I had it all wrong.

12 comments:

Stephanie said...

Thats pretty rude. :(

Peas on Toast said...

I know, isn't it just? Glad I'm not the only one who thinks so. I'm upset thogh, because I thought we were pretty good buds.
Oh well what can one do, except get on with it.

Little shit.

Stephanie said...

Anyone who can so easily dump a friend isn't worth knowing. Twat..

Peas on Toast said...

I know. I figured I'm just going to leave him.
So my ex was right. Possibly for the first time ever.

What gets me is that I wouldn't ever do that to anyone! ESpeially if they were a good mate of mine. Why is it that other people just do stuff and don't feel a thing???

Stephanie said...

On the whole, people don't like to admit it when they are behaving badly. It ruins the image they have built up of themselves. You are better off without him.

Better Safe Than Sorry said...

i think sometimes you have someone in your life that you consider a friend, but it's not until something like this happens that you realize they really weren't friends after all, they were just an acquitance. i've figured out over the years (showing my age again) that your friends become much closer when they are there for you at times other friends seem to disappear, things like breakups with bf's, loss of jobs, death in families. i appreciate it doesn't make sense to you, because it's something you would never do to someone, i think that shows you have the ability to make someone a great friend, not just an acquitance, unfortunately, this guy is choosing the latter. let him be, he's not going to be the only in your life that is going to be like that. this will actually make you appreciate your friends more and become closer to them, so maybe he's doing you a favour.

Binsk said...

Crack the nod? I love learning new expressions on your blog Laurian.

Yes men suck...not all of them but I large percentage.

Blog ho said...

i'm your friend. i'm a man. we haven't boned. yet.

Nettie said...

Awww, you don't seem to be having good luck at anything connected with the ex....

Peas on Toast said...

Thanks guys, yip I'm pretty pissed.

But I figured because he's chummy with the ex, I shouldv'e expected this I suppose.

I'm getting over it. Fast.

Peas on Toast said...

Oh and Ho - although I don't know you, you're a better than this plonker.

Are you sure we haven't boned??? Sure sure?? ;)

The Leak said...

Just to second Blog Ho here.. not all men are twats. I have plenty of female platonics. Just sounds like you have the same luck with men that I had with women in my early 20s.

Sod 'im. Not exactly much of a friend either.