Thanks everyone for your encouragement and for sharing your stories with me. It has definitely made me feel stronger and less alone. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
On the other end of the scale, I have hit my first Possible Rebound Excuse. Saturday Night Conquest is trying hard to see me at the moment. Luckily, my social calendar is delaying this somewhat, but it looks as though I might have to meet him after drinks at Jolly Roger and explain that fun is what I want right now, not a relationship. He's not being especially pushy, but I need to lay my cards out on the table.
The way I see it, and because I'm so bad at this, I'm going to say this:
- I'm going to Mozambique for a month at the end of this year. So, impossible to keep in touch from a country with hardly any telephones.
- I don't want to hurt him, so let's just have fun.
- I'm so not ready for this.
That should work, I think, I hope?
After a couple of cheekies at the Jolly, the words should come out easier too. :)