I've said this before – I think most of what the book says – which is pretty frank – is true, correct and brilliant. Women generally make excuses for men on a whole. (“But he's just really really busy....you know really, like, busy and stuff.”) The good thing about this book, is that it recognises that one doesn't need to lose face in the dating scene. One can proceed with knowledge and save a bit of [remaining threads of] dignity going forward.
The rules. He's Just Not That Into You:
If he's not asking you out.
Hanging out, eating chocolate, or bumping into him at a nightclub doesn't mean you're dating. Please tell me you know this already, ladies.
Men aren't afraid of 'ruining the friendship.'
They also know how to use a phone, and they also know how to find you. You are good enough to be asked out.
He's busy all the time, or has a lot on his mind.
Even if he has to assassinate Robert Mugabe, and he's gone undercover, or he wrecked his mother's Volvo – he'll spare you a thought and make contact if he's into you. “You deserve a fucking phonecall” – quote.
He's not that into you if he's shagging someone else.
By the way.
He's not that into you if he only sees you out on the piss/is always loaded/is a crack whore bastard
Even the most die-hard party animals (me included) have intimate moments on grape juice.
Bad boys are actually bad.
I'm gonna take a page from my own personal experience record and agree. They cannot be tamed, they don't care about you, and it will only end in tears. Your tears.
Don't date a man who isn't sure if he wants to date you.
If he likes you enough, he won't um and ah. He will want to see your bum as often as possible.
Don't waste your precious time on a man who has already rejected you.
It wasn't because he had selective amnesia the first time.
Makes sense, n'est ce pas? Although a guy mate of mine insists that the book is pants and South African men are different. I wholly disagree. “They aren't as forward as other guys,” he says.
To that I responded: “Then they're even more useless.”